HOT BUTTON QUESTIONS

• What are your religious beliefs?
• What are your political beliefs? Are you more liberal or conservative or fall in the middle?
• What is your opinion of our current President?
• How do you feel about Women’s rights? Gay rights? Minority rights? Etc.
• Have you ever been arrested or in jail? (Underage drinking, DUI, restraining order, theft, assault, etc.)
• Have you ever tried illegal drugs?
• Do you smoke (cigarettes or pot)?
• Have you ever stolen anything?

CHILDREN/KIDS

• Do you have kids? If so, How many kids? What are their ages and genders?
• Divorced….What’s your placement arrangement with your kids? How often do you see/have them?
• If no kids…..Was it a choice or medical reason?
• Do you like kids?
• Do you still want kids or are you okay with none?
• Adult Children….do they live nearby? How often do you see them?
• Do you have any grandchildren or step grandchildren?

HOME

• Do you own or rent?
• Apartment, townhouse, condo, house?
• Do you like things to be tidy around your home or are you okay with clutter/mess?
• Do you have a roommate?
• What do you like most about where you live? What do you like least?
• Where have you lived?
• Do you plan to stay living where you’re at, or do you have plans to move elsewhere?
• If planning to move….where do you hope to move to?
• What does your dream house look like? Where would it be?

FAMILY

• Parents….Living or passed away? Married or divorced? How many years married?
• Siblings….How many siblings or half-siblings?
• What’s your birth order?
• Describe your parents’ relationship – was it loving and supportive, or cold and argumentative?
• Who is your favorite person in your family?
• Who are you closest to?
• Describe your family dynamics (i.e., laid back, loving, over-bearing, crazy family, etc.).
• How do you feel your parents treat you – like an adult or like an adolescent?
• Extended family….How big is your family on each parents side (aunts, uncles, cousins)? Are you close with any of them?
• What do you think of the women in your family (i.e., daughter, mother, sister, sister-in-law, female cousin, niece, grandmother, aunt)?
• Who’s the craziest person in your family, and why?
• Are you adopted? If so, do you know your birth parents?

FRIENDS

• Do you have a best friend?
• How did you and your best friend meet?
• What do you admire most about your best friend?
• Do you have a big group of friends, or a only few close friends?
• Do you primarily have male friends, or do you also have female friends too?
• Do you have any gay friends? If not, why?
• Are your friends primarily coworkers, or do you have friends separate from work?
• What do you like about your friends?
• What do you enjoy doing with your friends – hanging out, going to events, helping each other out?
• Have you ever had a friend who stabbed you in the back or who you “broke up” with because of an incident? If so, what happened?
• How would your best friend/friend group describe you?

EDUCATION

• High School….Where did you go to high school?
• When did you graduate?
• Were you in any high school sports or extra-curricular activities?
• How did you do in school – a good student, average, below average?
• Did you go to the same school from kindergarten through high school?
• What was your favorite subject in school?
• Post High School….Did you go attend a college or university after high school or go to a trade school for training? When did you graduate/finish?
• What program/degree did you major in?
• What’s your highest degree earned?
• Do you have any certifications (i.e., Lean/Six Sigma, CPA, Massage Therapist, etc.)
• Did you enjoy school/college?
• What is a favorite memory from grade school, middle school, high school, or college?

CAREER

• What do you do for a living, and for how long?
• What is your work schedule (day, afternoon/eve, nights)?
• What do you like most/least about your current job?
• Are you a go-getter?
• What types of jobs have you worked in?
• What’s your favorite/worst job, and why?
• What job was the most fun for you?
• What’s your dream job/dream career?
• What’s one job you’d never do?
• What are you career goals?
• If you could work anywhere, where would it be?

BACKGROUND/CHILDHOOD

• Where did you grow up/where are you from originally?
• What was your childhood like?
• What were you like as a kid?
• What are your favorite memories from childhood?
• Did you move when you were growing up?
• What was a tradition your family had when you were a kid?
• When you were a kid, what did you dream of doing when you got older?
• Does your family still live in your hometown?
• Did you have a childhood best friend? If so, are you still in contact?

RELAXATION

• What do you love to do when you’re not working?
• What’s your favorite way to spend your weekend?
• Do you go away on vacations or do a stay-cation instead?
• What’s your favorite vacation destination?
• What do you like to do to help you relax?
• Have you ever gotten a massage? If not, would you get one?
• Do you meditate or do yoga?
• Do you enjoy taking naps?
• If you’ve got no plans for a day/night, what do you do to curb any boredom?
• Have you ever hung out at a sports bar, in a coffee shop or bookstore just so you were around other people and not alone?

EXERCISE/PHYSICAL ACTIVITY

• Do you work out? If so, how often?
• Are you physically fit or working toward a weight or strength goal?
• What do you like to do for exercise? Weights, cardio, both?
• Where do you like to work out (home, work gym, or do you have a gym membership)?
• Do you take exercise classes or boot-camp classes?
• What’s your favorite/least favorite exercise?
• Do you enjoy hiking, biking, walking, running, kayaking, roller blading, paddle boarding, wake boarding, skiing (water, snow), snowboarding, bowling, etc.?
• Do you (or have you ever) participate in recreational teams/leagues for softball, volleyball, or basketball?

INTERESTS/ENTERTAINMENT

• What’s your favorite movie (or movie genre)?
• What’s the worst movie you’ve ever seen that you can think of?
• Who’s your favorite movie star?
• Do you enjoy reading? If so, what’s your favorite book, magazine, online article?
• Who’s your favorite author?
• What’s your favorite TV show (past or current)?
• Do you watch shows on Netflix, Hulu, or Amazon? If so, do you have a favorite original series?
• What’s your favorite type (genre) of music (pop, rock, country, other)?
• Do you have a favorite musician or band?
• What other music do you enjoy?
• Do you enjoy going to concerts or music festivals?
• Do you like the performing arts, like musicals, touring performances, ballet, or orchestras?
• What shows have you seen? And, do you have a favorite?
• What show would you like to see?
• Do you like museums? Did you ever go as a kid?
• What is your favorite type of art?
• Do you have any tattoos or piercings? If so, would you get any more?
• Have you ever been to a Carnival or Fair (County or State)? If so, what’s your favorite ride? What’s your favorite food/treat to eat there?

GAMES

• Do you play video games? If so, which is your favorite?
• Do you prefer playing on a game system (Xbox, PlayStation) or PC games?
• What was your favorite childhood video game?
• Do you like board games?
• What’s your favorite/least favorite board game to play?
• Do you prefer to play racier games (like Cards Against Humanity) or a more traditional game (checkers or Monopoly)?
• Do you play cards, like Poker?
• Can you play chess?
• Are you competitive when you play games? Or are you okay with having fun?
• Is there a game where you’re super competitive and are unapologetic about it? If so, which one?
• How do you feel when you lose a game?

HOBBIES

• Do you have any current hobbies?
• What were some of your past hobbies?
• Do you have any hobbies you want to try?
• Do you watch any sports on TV?
• Do you play any sports?
• Which sport(s) do you like golf, football, basketball, baseball, soccer, hockey, tennis, racing, other?
• Are you a big sports fan?
• Who is your favorite sports team?
• Do you get down in the dumps if your favorite team loses?
• What’s your least favorite sport (to play or watch)?
• Do you enjoy attending professional sporting events?
• Do you participate in online Fantasy leagues or office pools? If so, which sport and how many do you generally enter?
• Which do you prefer more, Winter Olympics or the Summer Olympics?

VEHICLES

• Are you big into cars/trucks/motorcycles?
• What type of vehicle do you drive?
• Do you own or lease?
• What’s your favorite kind of car/truck?
• What kind of vehicle did you drive in high school?
• Do you ride motorcycle? If not, ever desire to get your license?
• Do you enjoy working on your vehicle or do you prefer to take it to a mechanic?
• What’s your dream vehicle?

TRAVEL

• Have you traveled much? If so, where have you been?
• Have you traveled anywhere cool lately?
• Do you enjoy traveling by car, plane, cruise, tour bus?
• What was your favorite place?
• What was your least favorite?
• What’s your dream place to visit?
• Is there anywhere else you’d love to live/move to?

PETS/ANIMALS

• Are you allergic to any animals?
• Do you have pets? If so, what kind and how many?
• Are you a cat or dog person? Or both?
• Have you ever had any pets before?
• What types of animals do you like?
• Are there any types of pets you don’t like?
• Do you enjoy going to the Zoo or an aquarium?
• If you could be any animal, which would you be (and why)?

FOOD

• Do you have a specific diet you follow (vegan, vegetarian, paleo, organic, other)?
• Are you allergic to any foods or supposed to avoid certain foods for health reasons?
• What’s your favorite food?
• Do you like to cook? If so, what’s your favorite entre to make?
• What food do you absolutely dislike?
• What’s your favorite “comfort food”?
• What’s your favorite cereal or breakfast food?
• Was there a food that you hated as a kid, but like now…or vice versa?
• What’s your favorite dessert?
• Do you prefer salty or sweet snacks?
• Where do you like to eat out at?
• What type of junk food do you enjoy?
• What’s a type of food you’ve always wanted to try?

BEVERAGES/DRINKS

• Do you prefer coffee or tea? Hot or iced?
• What’s your favorite non-alcoholic beverage (water, soda, juice, carbonated beverage, milk)?
• Do you drink alcohol?
• How often do you drink?
• What’s your favorite alcoholic beverage? Beer, wine, hard liquor, cocktail?
• Do you prefer red or white wine?

PERSONALITY

• Who has been the biggest influence in your life?
• Who’s your role model?
• What’s your best trait? What’s your worst?
• What’s the most thoughtful gift you’ve ever received?
• What’s the most thoughtful gift you’ve ever given?
• What do you feel most passionate about?
• What’s something you’re really proud of?
• What’s something you’ve always wanted to try?
• What’s something you’re bad at?
• What is something you are financially saving up for?
• What is the best advice you’ve ever received?
• What has been your greatest achievement so far?
• In one word, how would you describe yourself?
• What would be the perfect day for you?
• What are you the most grateful for in life?
• What’s a skill you wish you could be better at?

BEHAVIOR

• What’s your biggest pet peeve?
• Are you temperamental?
• Describe your sense of humor….What really makes you laugh?
• Have you ever had to tell a lie (excludes a white lie)?
• Do you consider yourself spontaneous or a planner?
• What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?
• Do you gamble? (Las Vegas, Casino’s, online gambling, lottery)
• Do you save money or spend money?
• If you won the lottery, what’s the first thing you’d do with the money?
• If you could donate to charity, which charity would it be and why?

DREAMS/GOALS

• What do you wish your 20-year old self would have known?
• What’s your biggest goal right now?
• Do you have a Bucket List? If so, name one thing on your bucket list.
• What have you already checked off your Bucket List?
• What do you want to be when you grow up?

RELATIONSHIPS/DATING

• Do you believe in monogamy?
• Do you believe in love?
• Do you believe in marriage?
• Are you a romantic?
• What do you look for in a partner?
• What do you find most attractive in a potential partner?
• What was your best relationship?
• What was your worst relationship?
• What do you like about dating?
• What do you dislike about dating?
• What quality for you is a “hell no” in a potential date?
• Where’s your comfort level with PDA? Are you okay with holding hand, hugging, kissing?
• How would you describe your manners (gentleman/chivalry or belch/fart)?
• Privacy….are you a go to the bathroom with the door open or closed type?
• Why did your last relationship end?
• What part did you play in things not working out?
• What would you do differently in your next relationship?

FOR FUN

• Are you a day person or night person?
• What’s your favorite color?
• Are you color blind? If so, what shades can/can’t you see?
• What’s your favorite holiday?
• What’s your horoscope sign?
• Do you believe in horoscopes?
• What’s your favorite piece of clothing you own?
• Do you know any magic tricks?
• If you could change your name, what would you make it?
• What’s your favorite superhero?
• If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
• Would you rather be a good guy or a bad guy in a movie or comic?
• Who’s your favorite villain?
• Who do you admire most?
• Have you ever met anyone famous?
• What’s one thing in the world you want most?
• Do you like the ocean/beach or the mountains?
• What do you like better, summer or winter?
• What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever tried?

INTIMACY

• When was your first kiss?
• What was your best kiss/worst kiss?
• How old were you when you lost your virginity?
• Have you ever gotten caught having sex? If so, where and by whom?
• Have you ever had a STD? Been treated for one?
• Do you believe in safe sex?
• What do you think is sexy?
• Where is your favorite place to have sex?
• What’s your favorite position?
• Do you like morning sex?
• Do you like sex in the shower/pool/hot tub?
• Have you ever regretted having sex with someone? If so, why?
• If you could sleep with a celebrity, who would that be?
• Do you have any secret fantasies?
• What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done?
• Where have you always wanted to have sex?